Phoenix Dessert Botanical Gardens

Yikes, looking at these photos makes me realize that I haven't taken out my camera for quite some time. There are moments when not taking out the SLR is refreshing, but then I take time to actually look back on the photos I take with that camera and I am always glad I did. I guess it's finding that balance of capturing photos to remember for years to come, but also living in the present so you don't miss it while it's happening. A tricky balance to find that's for sure.

My parents came down for a visit in February. They have been here quite a few times and are getting to know the area quite well, but it's always fun to find something for them to do that they haven't done yet. This trip we decided to check out the Desert Botanical Gardens. I had never been there either, so it was a new experience for all of us.

Sebastian had to work this day, but Aliyah and Isaac joined me. The weather was perfect, probably touching about 75 degrees in February. Aliyah loved being outdoors and I spent quite a bit of time making sure she didn't bound into a cactus (It's happened before when she was two. She ran into it because she is wild. It was a tiny little one, but she still talks about the experience with much drama.) Endless amounts of energy that little girl has.

This was at the time when Isaac was not mobile yet. Little did I know that would change completely. My chill baby, has now turned into a crawling, determined boy. (That's a whole new post.)

The plants in this garden were obviously very different from that of the Midwest. A lot a cacti, and herbs, but all still so beautiful. It was a fun time and nice to be able to experience a new place in the valley with my parents.

Custom 40th Anniversary Invitations

My parents recently celebrated their 40th anniversary. Wow! Their love and their relationship have always inspired me and have set some great guidelines for how to work hard and love unconditionally in a marriage.

My sister-in-law approached me a few months ago to see if we should throw a party for them since forty years is certainly something to celebrate. We both agreed that while a surprise party would have been fun, we had no idea who to invite since we knew my parents had no desire to have a large party. In the end we talked with them and decided to have a small, intimate gathering with just family and a few of the people who were part of their wedding party.

Right away in the planning process, my sister-in-law asked me about creating the invitations. I jumped at the chance to do so. I had a fun time looking at and incorporating my parents wedding colors and wedding photos, and I was more than pleased when both my Mom and Dad said they liked them very much.

The party was spectacular. It was fun to see my parents actually take a step into the spotlight and as a result everyone had the chance to hear some great stories about their engagement, wedding, honeymoon and being newlyweds in the Midwest countryside. By the end of the night, each guest had spoken about a memory they had of my mom and dad. It was pretty special. Congrats Mom and Dad! Thanks for showing us how to love!

A Girl, A Boy, and Their Dad

Not many things in life have been sweeter than watching Sebastian grow from friend to boyfriend to husband to dad. When Aliyah was born, it was amazing—and yes, surprising even—to see how Sebastian naturally fell into the role of being a caring father. To him, it was an important life challenge to accept and take seriously, but not without losing the sense of fun that he brings to everything he does.

When Aliyah was about two months old, he let me sleep in one weekend. He took it upon himself to dress her (most likely the first time he had fully dressed a baby), so he rummaged through her clothes and put her in a pair of orange shorts, a onsie with a tiger on it that said, “Wild Thing” and grabbed a safari hat off of a teddy bear nearby. When I woke up, they were both waiting for me, and I couldn’t help but shake my head and smile.




What I love most about how Sebastian goes about parenting is his honesty. He will be the first to tell you that in the first couple of months after both of our kids were born, he was at a loss at what to do with them after about twenty minutes, because as he says, "What else can you do with a newborn?". He’ll let you know that he thinks spit up is gross, or that his three year old daughter can be a difficult to handle at times. He’ll also let you know how incredibly in love he is with both of his kids, and that despite his awareness that he is bias, he still thinks they are hands down the coolest daughter and son around.  And our kids feel this. They both light up when Daddy comes home or when he talks directly to them. They both can be heard laughing because of some funny antic that only Sebastian can pull off.  And they both listen when Daddy disciplines them with love (well, maybe not Isaac just yet.)  As they grow I see that the bonds from father to daughter and father to son are only growing stronger.

A close second to what I love about Sebastian’s parenting is that he believes in me as a mother and he tells me this often. Not a day goes by where I don’t feel his support through either words or actions. In addition to being a manager and mentor in the professional world, as well as taking on hobbies with fervor (writing, golf and exercising to name a few), the amount of energy he puts into taking care of our children and being present in their life is incredible.

I know I’m not the only person out there who feels this way about their significant other, and I love to read or hear about others who appreciate their partners.  I’m not trying to brag or to show-off. (In fact, when I started this post, I thought it was going to be about Sebastian and Isaac’s relationship. Instead this turned out to be an act of gratitude for all Sebastian does as a husband and father.) Our family is lucky to have him. This one’s for you, Bastian. xoxo

Making Homemade Baby Food

Is there such a thing as delayed, post-partum nesting? Probably not, but I’m going to say I have that anyway. I’m not a huge fan of being pregnant. With both kiddos, I had lingering morning sickness that hung on for a while, and I grow really large babies it seems, so both times I felt extremely uncomfortable for most of the second half of the nine months because I get so huge so quickly. As much as I am very, very grateful that I have had the blessing of carrying two beautiful healthy babies (to the point where I feel bad about admitting that I don’t like pregnancy), I just don’t feel that glow that so many mothers talk of. Suffice it to say, the period before both Aliyah and Isaac arrived involved a lot of worrying and exhaustion, rather than craftiness and nesting.

When Aliyah first started solids, I tried making her food a few times. I can’t even remember why, but I gave up after I had initially tried and shortly after I bought baby food. In my mind I just assumed that making her baby food was more trouble than it was worth.

I’m not sure what it is with Isaac—perhaps it’s because he’s the second baby and a lot of my first-time mom anxiety has diminished. (Example: pacifier falls on the floor? Pick it up and pop it back in second kid’s mouth. With first kid…I would never dare. ) This time around I feel more comfortable in my skin as a mom, and as a result I’ve been able to have some fun doing things I put on the back burner for Aliyah. (Not to worry, she has had plenty of advantages over her little brother. It all evens out in the end. J)

Making my own baby food has been one of the adventures I’ve embarked on as a second-time mom. I wasn’t sure if it would end up like last time where I would give up shortly after, but I knew I wanted to try again. I researched like crazy, and everything I read made it seem quite simple. Then one weekend on a trip to Costco, I passed by an immersion blender on sale and decided that the homemade baby food stars had aligned and I needed to take this as a sign.

My tools for making my homemade baby food include:

• Reasonably priced blender. It doesn't need to be a heavy-duty, expensive one. You’ll be boiling or steaming most of the foods before-hand so they will easy to blend. (Here’s the one we have: CuisineartHB-155PC Smartstick) I like the immersion blender because it's really quick to rinse off after you puree a food, rather than having to clean out an entire machine. 
•  Ice Cube Trays: For separating and freezing 1 ounce portions of food to store. I bought some extremely inexpensive BPA-free ones from Target (99 cents each).  These thinner plastic ones make popping out the cubes a little tricky, so I would buy ones with slightly thicker plastic. I only have two, but when I make big batches of food I could use a few more trays in order to freeze everything all at once.
• Peeler: To peel off the skin on the veggies and fruits (though you can leave the skin on fruits if you want. They puree well into the final food, only leaving little specks of skin.)
• Spatula: Optional. For me, it makes it easier to spoon into the ice cube trays.

Making your homemade baby food is super easy. Here’s how:

1.  Peel veggies. You can also peel the fruit if you want. I did in the beginning, I don’t anymore for fruits.
2. Cut into small cubes. The smaller the cubes, the faster they will cook to the desired softness in order to puree.
3. Boil or steam for about 5-10 minutes or until soft (depending on the food. Pears cook quickly, sweet potatoes take longer.) Keep the water so you can add it to create your desired thickness when you blend. Also, steaming is known for retaining the most nutrients.
4. Put into blender or bowl for immersion blender and blend. Add water as you see fit.  Usually the less thick the better if they are young. (But you also don’t want it to be too watery so they can’t get the hang of eating.)
5. Use your spatula and separate into the ice cube trays. Cover with aluminum foil and stick into the freezer.
6. After cubes are frozen pop them out and separate into plastic bags. Label with food and date.
7. Thaw at room temperature or microwave and give to baby.  

Isaac has officially been eating pureed foods for about two months now. We started out with store-bought baby oatmeal in Georgia at Christmas time so Oma could get a chance to feed him his first solid food.  He took it well, but he seemed to think the spoon was a bottle or nipple and mostly just wanted to suck on it. The first couple of times at home that I tried feeding him baby oatmeal, he ate a bit, but didn’t seem too interested.

There are a few foods that require no blending at all. One day I had a ripe banana on the counter and decided to put it into a plastic bag and mash it up with my hands. I added a bit of breastmilk, mixed the two together in a bowl and gave it to Isaac. He loved it and ate it all up. I haven’t tried yet, but avocados are also supposed to be easy to just mash and give to baby.

I usually set aside a couple of hours every other weekend and make numerous batches of different types of food. So far we have made and been successful with sweet potatoes, broccoli, carrots, pears, apples, peaches and blueberry and peach mixed together. He’s been a great eater and my hope is that this will create a more diverse palate as he grows into a toddler and preschooler--or at least somewhat less picky than his pre-school, sister is. She is a fairly healthy eater, but her food likes are pretty limited. She’s a picky, (semi) healthy eater.  

There’s something I really enjoy about making Isaac’s food. I haven’t figured out why yet. It is slightly more reasonable, and we waste less because of the ability to size out the one ounce portions. To be perfectly honest, I don’t really think that making homemade baby food is all that healthier than buying store bought foods. According to my research, baby food is some of the purest food on the supermarket shelves, since it’s so simple. I do know that making his food gives me a sense of accomplishment. Perhaps it’s my inner farm-girl budding through. Being in a large metropolitan setting, I sometimes feel as though I am searching for a bit of the country. Maybe making Isaac’s food allows me to stay a little closer to my farming roots.

Picnic Lunch

Being a part-time employee is (sadly) coming to and end. Next week at this time I will be back full time at my job. I'm so grateful for the fact that I was able to take three months off and four months part-time, but no matter the length, it never seems like enough time with my kids. (Except when they are driving me nuts...) So this week I am enjoying every little moment of extra time I have with them.

One of my favorite places to take the kids is a little lunch shop called The Lunch Bag. This place is awesome. It's this tiny little soup, salad and sandwich place that is run by a mother and daughter and the food there is fairly simple, but absolutely delicious. What really got me into this place though was the owners. They know their "regulars" and they treat them well. Always taking time to stop and ask about Aliyah and Isaac and talking to them. I love places like that.

We stopped by today, (the last time in awhile that I'll be there with my kids...sniff, sniff...oh but wait, I'll get to go there by myself, so it's not all bad.) took our food home and went to the back yard to have a picnic.

If Aliyah could eat outside for every meal, I think she would choose to do so. Her brother is following in her interests and loves to be outside as well so every moment we spend outdoors usually equates to two happy kids. I love the green grass and the sun on my face, which means we're all in good moods.

Nothing is safe from this kid now that he can army crawl at top speeds.

Princess Aliyah of Carden House

Anyone watch Game of Thrones? The hubs and I are obsessed. (And looking forward to Season 4 this spring!) It's pretty much the only reason I thought of the title for this post (and not because we would even dare think to let Aliyah see any part of that show. Adults only for that one...ha.)

But back to the real cutie. Aliyah. This past year, Aliyah has just started to show her "girly" side. It doesn't come out very often, but when it does it sure is cute. Most days she'd rather be playing with her horse toys (obsessed with horses right now), or with her trains or tractors or out riding bike or kicking the soccer ball. This is completely different from what I used to do when I was younger. I could have played house and with my dolls all day, every day. Had it not been for my older brother who loved sports, I'm not sure I would have ever known I could be athletic.

So when Aliyah put on her crown and asked me to clip on her blanket as a dress, I was all in. She is at the perfect age right now when her imagination is completely free and uninhibited. She's not yet embarrassed to go in full make-believe mode, and the sky is the limit for what she decides to be. This day it was a princess. Yesterday is was a super hero who found missing things around the house.

Yep...the year three is full of some hard days (think: tantrums, whining...all that good stuff), but it's also filled to the brim with some pretty sweet things as well, like imagination, witty conversations and lots of hugs and kisses. Can't say it enough. Love this little girl with all my heart and soul.

Isaac | 5 Months

This little guy isn't so little anymore. I think he is teetering on about 20-21 pounds, and is somewhat long too. (We're not quite sure where he gets this from, since clearly Sebastian and I aren't exceptionally tall.)

He has his 6 month appointment later this month, but I have been meaning to capture some photos of him before he starts crawling. Seems like that could be any week now since he's mastered rolling over and is constantly switching from back to tummy to get where he wants to go.



Still super relaxed, still a perfect baby (no mom bias there, ha!) Barely cries, smiles at everyone and the best part for me is that as long as he has his blankie or crib (or both) he will sleep anywhere, and most often doesn't need to be rocked or nursed to sleep.



The only thing that could be a bit better is his nighttime wakings. Some nights he'll be only wake up twice, other nights he will be up 4 or 5 times. I thought that starting him on rice cereal might help him sleep through the night, especially if he nursed right afterwards (double the food equals a full belly, right?), but that hasn't really been the case. If that's all I have to complain about, I'll take it. This little guy has officially won the hearts of our entire family. (Big sis included, you should see those two "talk" to one another. It makes my heart happy.)

Life with Two

I thought I would post this. I was writing another post, but saw that I had this one in a draft mode and never published it. Kind of fun to look back and read what I was thinking a few months ago.

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One of the most common topics of conversation I had while pregnant was how going from one to two kids would be one of the biggest challenges in my life.  I won't lie, transitioning from a three to four person household does change things up quite a bit--it takes longer to get everyone in the car, sleep is once again measured in three to four hour periods, I'm on call around the clock as a personal feeding machine and so on. Even so, the change doesn't seem quite as abrupt as I envisioned while pregnant. Perhaps, I was envisioning the worst possible scenarios, but so far I've been pretty blessed in many areas. Isaac sleeps well, Sebastian was able to stay home for two weeks on paternity leave, we've had a great support from family and friends near and far, and Aliyah has adjusted to the big sister role fairly well. She still has her 3 year old moments, but for the most part, we've been pleasantly surprised at how she's taking the fact that the attention isn't all on her.

Three weeks into being a mother of two and this here are some random things I've observed.

1. He looks like his big sister did as a newborn. Sebastian didn't see the resemblance until I pulled out a newborn photo of Aliyah. It will be interesting to see if they end up looking similar to one another as they get older. 
2. He eats...constantly! Especially in the first two weeks, I felt like I was nursing non-stop. 
3. Nursing was not any easier the second time around. Two weeks of intense, searing pain. But I think because I knew what to expect this time, I was able to get through it and know that it would get better, and it has. 
4. With Aliyah, I was able to nurse for 5 months, which was much less than I thought I would do so, but going back to work put a damper on my supply. This time around, my hope is to nurse longer than the 5 month mark, but I will also not stress out about it if it doesn't happen again. 
5. Boys (or maybe just Isaac) poop and pee a lot. I seriously do not remember Aliyah going through as many diapers as he did. More than once, I've used two or three diapers at a time because he will pee all over a diaper while I'm putting  a new one on. 
6. He loves to be held. I'm pretty sure this is a common thing for most newborns since I remember Aliyah loved to be held and would sleep best during the day in my arms. Isaac is the same. 
7. Swaddling is once again the magical sleep potion. There are times when Isaac will get done eating, Sebastian will swaddle him (because he is the master swaddler in this house. I can do it, but Sebastian does it better) and Isaac falls asleep in mid-swaddle. 
8. He's a big boy. One person told me he looked like a three month old already, another told me he's looks huge when I'm holding him and I keep thinking he's already lost his newborn looks. But he is so incredibly cute. 
9. Balancing my time between two young kids is my biggest challenge so far. Especially in these early weeks when Isaac needs so much attention, I find myself with the common worry of whether I'm giving Aliyah enough attention. We decided that we would keep her in daycare part-time while I'm on maternity leave, so she still goes three days a week. I love my days with two kids, but I often feel bad when I'm holding Isaac trying to get him down for a nap, or nursing him because it definitely limits the activities I can do with Aliyah. Also, engaging a three year old all day is quite the challenge when the Arizona heat limits outdoor time, so I am constantly on the look-out for educational things to do with her. So far, online printables, workbooks from Targets dollar aisle, trips to the library and Brain Quest have been my go-to activities. 
10. Aliyah is taking on her big sister role with flying colors. If Isaac cries and I'm not in the room, she'll talk to him sweetly. She loves to hold his hand and give him kisses. 

Around Here

Hard to believe that little Isaac's been here for almost four weeks. Some parts of life have changed quite a bit, while others have stayed the same, but I think this weekend was the first time where things felt more settled and normal. Sebastian and I are slowly getting into our groove with things like sleeping, breastfeeding, entertaining both kids and taking time for ourselves. I even managed to leave the house by myself to go the gym and Target since Isaac took a bottle from Sebastian. This is amazing, since I remember we waited a few months to introduce bottles to Aliyah and she refused for quite a few weeks. I'm still nursing him most of the time, but the fact that other people can now feed him helps to know that I can step away for a little bit if needed.

I am loving being on maternity leave and allowing myself the time to enjoy both of my kids without the stress of work. We're keeping Aliyah in daycare three times a week, and so far it's been a good transition for her. I enjoy my time with both her and Isaac and am glad she's home for at least two days a during the week with me. It's fun to be able to play with her and work with her on math, writing and crafts. Though I will admit, since newborns rule the nest, I do find myself worrying whether I'm giving her enough of my time. I never want her to feel as if I am putting her second. Balancing the needs of Isaac with her needs and wants is something I'm slowly figuring out, and each week gets a little bit better. At the same time I'm also happy that I get to spend some precious one-on-one, newborn time with Isaac while Aliyah is having fun with her friends at "school". 

Here's a few snapshots of what we've been doing these past three or four weeks. 

I think it's a given, I could stare at Isaac all day. He's huge compared to Aliyah at almost four weeks, but he is so incredibly adorable. 

Sebastian was able to take paternity leave for two weeks. This was a huge help since it made the transition of going from a family of three to four much easier. I also attribute Aliyah's ability to welcome Isaac with no jealousy to the fact that Sebastian was home and could give her some much needed attention those first two weeks. Even though he said he wasn't going to work, he did clock in some time from home. What a guy. :)

Adorable father and son moments. I'm always amazed at how well Sebastian falls into the father role, no matter what age our kids are. He changes diapers, he swaddles Isaac, he showers Aliyah with attention and he disciplines. It's great to have him by my side. 

Candy Land is a new favorite around here. Often times Sony Baby has to play with us. This makes the game about 10 times longer than necessary, but it's Sony Baby. He can never be left out. 

As I mentioned before, Aliyah has taken to being a big sister with flying colors. Most of the time she doesn't pay too much attention to her little brother, but she is quick to tell us we need to be quiet when he's sleeping, and if he cries she'll rock and shush him--and then come running to me letting me know that she's done so. She loves to hold his hand and give him kisses. I'm so grateful that she's been so good at sharing the spotlight. Especially when this little girl has received a huge amount of attention from Mom and Dad for the past three years. 

Aliyah also celebrated her 3rd birthday earlier this month. I have a three year old? How can that be? One of her gifts was a package of about a hundred temporary tattoos and she was in love. If I would have let her, she would have tried to put all of them on at once. 

And last, but certainly not least. We can't forget out "first son", Sony. This is pretty much how he feels about Isaac. No big deal, as long as he has a comfy spot to sleep. Interesting story: When Aliyah was born, Sony disappeared for three days. We thought he was gone forever, and that would have been terrible, because this cat probably means more to us and a cat should--but then again, he's a pretty cool and awesome cat. This time, Sony decided he didn't need to be so dramatic and stayed put at the house. Now if only I could get him to stop bringing tiny lizards into the house....

Introducing...

Phone Snapshots: A Little Catch Up

Life has been pretty typical here for the Carden's. I sometimes forget how much goes on week by week until I take a look at my phone snapshots. Thank goodness for Instagram, right? Here's a little recap of what we've been up to lately.

1. Easter Egg Hunt: We arrived early to this event, but so did everyone else it seemed. It was packed and pure chaos. Thank goodness for Sebastian's perseverance, because I immediately suggested we leave. We ended up staying and I'm glad we did because Aliyah very much enjoyed it.
2. Coloring Easter Eggs: We dyed eggs this year for the first time. Her patience didn't allow for very bright colors, but she still loved the entire process.
3. Phoenix Children's Museum: Sebastian was gone one weekend, so Aliyah and I made the trip into downtown Phoenix to the children's museum. It was a great little morning trip and a good way to spend some one-on-one time with my girl.
4. Singing Diva: This girl loves to sing and dance and talk. Gosh, how she talks. She is constantly chit-chatting right up until she finally falls asleep at night from exhaustion. She will frequently have conversations with herself and sometimes I will think she's talking to me and I'll ask her to repeat what she said, but she'll reply with, "Oh, I was just talking to myself, Mommy."
5. Barbara's Napa Wedding: I made my last trip while pregnant to California at the end of May to attend one of my very dear friend's wedding in Napa. It was a gorgeous event, and I had a great time. We've had (and still do have) quite a few weddings this year, so Sebastian and Aliyah stayed back while I attended this one solo.
6. Trips to the Library: The library is definitely one of our go-to places when we need to take a little break from the extreme heat. Aliyah has picked up a great love of reading and I've mentioned before that I am impressed at the libraries in Scottsdale and what they have to offer, so we always have fun when we go. Just a few days ago, Aliyah said she wanted to try to read 20 books in one day. But I'm pretty sure it was her bedtime and she was just trying to figure out a way to stay up later.
7. Evening Soccer Games: Sebastian started a Yelp soccer league about a year ago and Aliyah and I have started going to his games in Tempe. Aliyah loves to force anyone on the team to kick the ball back and forth to her. And by force, I mean she locks eyes with them and kicks the ball, so their options are pretty limited. She has a blast each time we go and it's been fun to watch Sebastian and his team get better and better each week. They even managed to move up a a division when they won their previous divisions championship game.
8. Hiking in Tonto National Forest:
We took a weekend trip here last year and made our way back again, this time for just the afternoon. The weather is hot here in Arizona, so it was our last hike until it cools down again. Plus I was about 7 months pregnant for this trip and I've never been so winded trying to hike back up from the Natural Bridge. Sebastian and Aliyah went ahead of me, while I slooooooooowly walked back at my own pace.
9. Family Dinners with Oma & Spencer: Sebastian's Mom and our nephew, Spencer made the trip out here from Georgia again this summer during 4th of July week. Spencer has been attending iD Tech for the past four years now, and the past two years he and Oma have come out here for a week and a half to visit and for Spencer to attend our ASU camp location. The week is filled with lots of fun conversation, wine drinking, and home-cooked meals that are to die-for. I always eat very well when Oma comes into town.
10. Cousins: Aliyah loves when any of her cousins come visit. Being that she is the youngest, she is constantly in their face, but Spencer did really well with her and included her in numerous games and played with her. She is still asking where Spencer is and misses him a lot.
11. Best Buds: Sony is loving all the attention he is getting from Aliyah now that she has finally figured out that jumping on him isn't how he wants to be petted. I'll find these two frequently cuddled up together and Sony loves to plop down right in front of Aliyah so she'll give him some attention.
12. Current Reads: Finding a good book is always tough for me, especially if I've just finished one that I've really enjoyed. My last read was The Distant Hours, which had me up to 2am one night trying to finish it, so I was happy when I picked up two books that are both really good shortly thereafter. The top one, The Best of Everything, is a piece of fiction from the late 50's that is reminiscent of the t.v. series, Mad Men, which I love. I love anything to do with that era, and so far I can't put this book down. Sebastian bought me the second one, Lean In, which is a non-fiction book by Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of facebook and it really hits home since it talks about women in the workforce and how there are still too few female executives and why this should change. I like this book mostly because she talks a lot about being a working mom and the challenges that come with it, all without being overly feminist or soap-boxy. A good read that I would recommend to any woman.